Here are four agreements…with yourself and others.
When Don Miguel Ruiz wrote his book titled The Four Agreements, I think it would have been fair to say that he could not have imagined how profound his writings would be.
Without getting too much into the history behind the Toltec Spirit and pursuing one’s own personal path to freedom, I have outlined the Agreements and how their application many years ago still hold true today.
I have chosen to list them in order of importance to how they came into my life, how they have stayed in my life, and how they continue to repeat in my life still today. Their concepts are all very simple truths but can sometimes be very challenging to apply and maintain.
Still, we try, everyday to do our best, never making any assumptions, or taking anything personally.
Here are my personal take and impressions of the four agreements:
1. Don’t Make Assumptions
Like that old saying goes…”When you assume, you make an a*s out of you and me.”
This is so true in all aspects of life. I can clearly recall numerous arguments I have had where what started as a simple discussion of differences evolved into outride arguments. So much was the heated discussion that by the time we was done, we didn’t even recall what the original fight was even about.
Does this sound familiar to you?
It could have been something as small as a compliment made to you where you felt the tone was not to your liking and so you “assumed” it was meant as a “dig”. Instead, look to the light and don’t allow negative thoughts and self -doubt to make more out of things. Always remember to ask clarifying questions before just assuming.
2. Don’t Take Anything Personally.
Taking things personally may sound a lot like making assumptions, but it is different.
Remember, the danger in taking things personally is that when you do this you bring attention to yourself…good attention as well as bad attention. The thought that the world revolves around you and that everyone and everything has to do with you can be very exhausting.
The moment in life when you realize how small and insignificant, yet how valuable we each are in this great big world is the day you begin to find the “why” behind your worth. As Mark Twain said, “The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why.”
So when you hear a statement that feels like something “personal”, take a moment and a breath, step back and pause. It was probably not meant for you.
Next- Agreements 3 and 4
About the author
Born in Coral Gables, Florida to immigrant Cuban parents. She grew-up with unconditional love, traveled often, and experienced many cultures, Haiti being her most memorable one. The poverty she witnessed made an indelible impression. She attended college, married and had a 25-year "corporate grind" in banking. When her position was "displaced" she decided to turn her lemons into margaritas, and changed her lifestyle. Her mind, body and spirit were re-energized through yoga, meditation, and a healthy lifestyle. Living in Davie, Florida with her four children, cat and dogs; Josi is an Entrepreneur, Motivational Coach, Yoga Instructor and Speaker of Truth (doesn't "sugar coat" reality). She loves her yellow Jeep and takes her sense of adventure everywhere she goes!Website