5 Keys To Building a Self-Fulfilling Model for Confidence

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Confidence is a necessity in business and in life

What are some of the qualities we see in those we consider confident? Do we observe loud or quiet, big or small, happy, determined, positive or tenacious? Actually, there are many layers to being confident and confidence does look different on different people at different times. During the 2012 Olympics as sprinter Usain Bolt stepped onto the track to defend his gold medal, there was an unmistakable look of confidence about him. That didn't mean he couldn't lose; it simply meant he believed he would win.

 

A Belief In One's Own Ability

The word "confidence" is defined as a feeling, state or quality of being; a feeling that you can rely on something or someone, a sense of assurance or self-assurance and an emotional security and faith in one’s self and one’s ability, capacity and power. While legitimate confidence based on an informed belief in one’s self is no guarantee of success in any single instance, the belief that a person can realistically succeed does contribute to a pattern of success. In contrast, those who lack confidence may find success through luck, timing or opportunity, but without self-belief success is very difficult to maintain.

Research tells us that some people may have a biological predisposition to certain characteristics, be it optimism or pessimism, or confidence or self-doubt. However, these predispositions alone do not tell the story. Your experiences -- including where you live, what you learn and who believes in you -- can significantly impact who you become and what you achieve. Perhaps confidence comes more easily when you have the right DNA, but we're all capable of writing and rewriting our own story.

 

 

The Brain Believes What it Experiences

Chances are you've had moments where your confidence has grown or diminished. It can happen over years or in a moment. Neuroscience tells us that the brain can learn what it experiences, real or imagined. Visualization and virtual reality experiences can convince the brain we've experienced things we've only imagined. The brain processes our thoughts and virtual experiences as tangibly as it processes our actual experiences. If you believe you can succeed, you can vastly improve your odds of succeeding. Of course confidence alone won't allow you to beat Usain Bolt in a race, but it can still carry you a long way.

 

 

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About the author

Tara Orchard

Tara Orchard is a coach, trainer, consultant and writer who applies her insights into people and Masters training in psychology to facilitate performance improvements, relationships and communication for people and businesses. She has worked with organizations to deliver clarity on culture and brand, develop their people and manage relationships with social network communities.  Over the past 18 years she has consulted with 1000's of people who want to make effective transitions in their lives. Tara has a knack for hearing what people are thinking and helping them see what they need to see. She is the founder of her own career and social network coaching business, works with several other organizations as a coach and consultant and is about to complete her first book on the "psychology of effective social networking". Tara invites you to connect with her on LinkedIn .

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