Learn your personal signs of becoming overwhelmed, so you can get back on track
EDITOR'S NOTE: This is the first of a two-part series on how to avoid becoming overwhelmed.
What does it feel like to be on the edge of being overwhelmed? For some people, being overwhelmed can feel like sinking into a dark hole, being stuck in mud, having a weight on their shoulders or on their chest and falling off a cliff. Some of this might sound like fun if you are at an amusement park or competing on a TV show for a cash prize, but as an everyday experience, these feelings hold much less appeal
Being overwhelmed is both a physical and a psychological state. You can feel a range of physical and emotional sensations associated with stress, including feeling tired, frustrated, irritable, restless and more without being overwhelmed. Sometimes, the physical and emotional feelings associated with stress can have a positive effect in that they can motivate you to action and give you a burst of adrenalin. However, once you have reached a state of being overwhelmed, the benefits of these feelings have been lost and you can become stuck.
It's important to know how to catch yourself before becoming overwhelmed and then make minor changes that could enable you to avoid getting to the point of shutting down.
An Individual Matter
There are many reasons people become overwhelmed. Our personal makeupincluding personality, emotional resilience and biologypositions us to be affected differently by factors that cause stress and then by the stress itself. You may have personal circumstances from your pastincluding childhood experiences or present circumstancesthat contribute to having more or less ability to manage your physical and emotional health. In fact, certain individuals may have more resilience built into their DNA that when combined with their level of family and community support can contribute to a greater ability to manage stress.
Search the words stress and resilience, and you will find many scholarly articles discussing how the brain and body react to stress, and how different individuals react and recover differently based on various factors. This is the same story we get when we read about the impact that exercise, diet and lifestyle have on body weight.
Someday, we will have better science that will allow us to pinpoint our own individual stress and resilience factors. For now, however, we have to learn to understand our own triggers. Fortunately, there are some common triggers we can look for as we seek to understand our own reactions and responses to stress and lifes challenges.
Identify the Signs
As you reach a point of being overwhelmed, your emotions and negative thoughts can cause your performance at work and home to noticeably suffer. When you are overwhelmed, you may find yourself making frequent mistakes and errors in judgment, even lashing out at others or withdrawing from people and activities you previously found time for.
About the author
Tara Orchard is a coach, trainer, consultant and writer who applies her insights into people and Masters training in psychology to facilitate performance improvements, relationships and communication for people and businesses. She has worked with organizations to deliver clarity on culture and brand, develop their people and manage relationships with social network communities. Over the past 18 years she has consulted with 1000's of people who want to make effective transitions in their lives. Tara has a knack for hearing what people are thinking and helping them see what they need to see. She is the founder of her own career and social network coaching business, works with several other organizations as a coach and consultant and is about to complete her first book on the "psychology of effective social networking". Tara invites you to connect with her on LinkedIn .LinkedIn