3 Quick Steps to Gaining Personal Perspective and Balance
1) Inventory what you have, need or want.
2) Dissect the components of what you have, need and want.
3) Prioritize whats important so you understand what you really have, need and want.
This process of inventorying and prioritizing doesnt require hours of time on a regular basis.
At any given moment, you have the ability to stop and take stock. At any given moment, you can change what youre doing and shift your priorities. These dont have to be seismic shifts, but smaller ones in the moment that contribute to balancing the scales over time.
Much of our lives are spent in unconscious mode. Our fast-thinking, instinctive brain puts us on autopilot as often as possible to conserve energy.
If youve gotten into the habit of prioritizing work over health or family, its easy to remain in this modeso much so that you may not even realize you have options. Once you miss one dinner at home with the family or skip a week of exercise, your brain begins to make the adjustment to lower these priorities, which makes it easier to not even notice theyre missing.
This unconscious pattern applies to whether you respond to the notifications on your phone, work late for extra hours, play too many video games or anything else thats become habituated. Once you stop thinking about why youre doing them, you just keep doing them.
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Finding balance can include working from home on Saturday afternoon so you can spend Monday sneaking off with your child or spouse for a picnic in the park.
Balance doesnt mean working 9 to 5 and clocking out. It doesnt mean never checking your phone or email notifications. It means knowing when to work and when not to work, when to shut down and when to turn back on, and what youre doing and why.
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Get into the habit of regularly asking yourself:
- What am I doing and why?
- What can wait and for how long?
- Who am I with and why?
- Whats important right now and why?
- Considering these questions can occupy only a minute of your time, giving you the opportunity to stop and change your perspective. Over time, youll habituate a new pattern that involves stopping and asking yourself whats important and being mindful of the moment youre in. By doing so, you can start changing your perspective and regain your ability to make conscious choices about your life.
About the author
Tara Orchard is a coach, trainer, consultant and writer who applies her insights into people and Masters training in psychology to facilitate performance improvements, relationships and communication for people and businesses. She has worked with organizations to deliver clarity on culture and brand, develop their people and manage relationships with social network communities. Over the past 18 years she has consulted with 1000's of people who want to make effective transitions in their lives. Tara has a knack for hearing what people are thinking and helping them see what they need to see. She is the founder of her own career and social network coaching business, works with several other organizations as a coach and consultant and is about to complete her first book on the "psychology of effective social networking". Tara invites you to connect with her on LinkedIn .LinkedIn