4. Being resilient involves seeking to embrace change for the future
Looking forward to a changing future is an important element in resilience. If youre afraid of taking risks for the future, you miss the very opportunity to act with resilience.
Learning to avoid complacency or stagnation is an important step in resilience. Embracing uncertainty and change can generate energy that can be translated into more resilience and momentum. Resilience means saying, Lets see what comes next.
5. Resilience Involves forgiving and treating others with respect
A resilient person doesnt want to bring negativity into the picture. A mentally strong person strives to be kind and fair and to please others where appropriate, but isnt afraid to turn people down and say no or disagree.
Learning to be comfortable that someone else might get upset and how to navigate negative encounters helps build resilience. Letting go of other peoples reactions doesnt mean discounting what they may have to say; it just means not letting disagreement bring you down.
6. To build resilience you must look inward
Ongoing self-reflection helps with ongoing course corrections, which is often the core of resilience. A mentally strong person seeks to avoid falling into the same traps or making the same mistakes repeatedly.
Learning to examine ones self, choices, actions, motives, needs and perceptions enables opportunity for change and forward momentum
7. Mentally resilient people benefit from other peoples success
Personal resilience doesnt come at the expense of others but enjoys and feels joy or excitement at the resilience and success of others. Mental strength doesnt become jealous at the success of others.
Resilient people can learn to ride the wave of energy and momentum gained by observing and enjoying the success and resilience of others.
8. Resilient people do not fear repeated failures
Resilience by definition does not give up. That doesnt mean you have to bang your head against the same wall over and over again. Resilience includes looking for new and alternate solutions.
Learning when to fail and when to try again will help build a foundation for ongoing resilience. Resilient people learn to learn from their experiences of failure and often take risks based on what theyve learned, knowing they can bounce back from their next failure.
9. Resilience has patience and stamina but can act quickly
Balancing the short term and the long term is a skill of resilience. Acting quickly and having patience arent mutually exclusive and, in fact, often exist in tandem.
Learning that patience is often required will help resilient people to be ready to act when the opportunity to act is required and wait when waiting is the better choice. Mental resilience understands that sometimes resilience means being in it for the long haul.
10. Being resilient includes celebrating milestones and incremental achievements
Resilience takes and gives energy. Celebrating but not dwelling on small achievement along the journey helps balance hunger with satisfaction. Resilient people remain hungry for their next challenge and success but enjoy and appreciate what theyve achieved along the way.
Learn that you have the power to become mentally stronger and increase your resilience. Surround yourself with people and opportunities to observe, develop and exercise your resilience. Do one more thing each day then you think you can; forgive one more person; do one more rep during your workout; cook something new; enjoy one more moment; pat yourself on the back one more time.
Remember that resilience is built or destroyed brick at a time. Use these building blocks each day to fortify your own mental strength as you build resilience.
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About the author
Tara Orchard is a coach, trainer, consultant and writer who applies her insights into people and Masters training in psychology to facilitate performance improvements, relationships and communication for people and businesses. She has worked with organizations to deliver clarity on culture and brand, develop their people and manage relationships with social network communities. Over the past 18 years she has consulted with 1000's of people who want to make effective transitions in their lives. Tara has a knack for hearing what people are thinking and helping them see what they need to see. She is the founder of her own career and social network coaching business, works with several other organizations as a coach and consultant and is about to complete her first book on the "psychology of effective social networking". Tara invites you to connect with her on LinkedIn .LinkedIn