10 Steps Toward Choosing Mental Resilience


4. Being resilient involves seeking to embrace change for the future

Looking forward to a changing future is an important element in resilience. If you’re afraid of taking risks for the future, you miss the very opportunity to act with resilience.

Learning to avoid complacency or stagnation is an important step in resilience. Embracing uncertainty and change can generate energy that can be translated into more resilience and momentum. Resilience means saying, “Let’s see what comes next.”

5. Resilience Involves forgiving and treating others with respect

A resilient person doesn’t want to bring negativity into the picture. A mentally strong person strives to be kind and fair and to please others where appropriate, but isn’t afraid to turn people down and say no or disagree.

Learning to be comfortable that someone else might get upset and how to navigate negative encounters helps build resilience. Letting go of other people’s reactions doesn’t mean discounting what they may have to say; it just means not letting disagreement bring you down.

6. To build resilience you must look inward

Ongoing self-reflection helps with ongoing course corrections, which is often the core of resilience. A mentally strong person seeks to avoid falling into the same traps or making the same mistakes repeatedly.

Learning to examine one’s self, choices, actions, motives, needs and perceptions enables opportunity for change and forward momentum

7. Mentally resilient people benefit from other people’s success

Personal resilience doesn’t come at the expense of others but enjoys and feels joy or excitement at the resilience and success of others. Mental strength doesn’t become jealous at the success of others.

Resilient people can learn to ride the wave of energy and momentum gained by observing and enjoying the success and resilience of others.

8. Resilient people do not fear repeated failures

Resilience by definition does not give up. That doesn’t mean you have to bang your head against the same wall over and over again. Resilience includes looking for new and alternate solutions.

Learning when to fail and when to try again will help build a foundation for ongoing resilience. Resilient people learn to learn from their experiences of failure and often take risks based on what they’ve learned, knowing they can bounce back from their next failure.

9. Resilience has patience and stamina but can act quickly

Balancing the short term and the long term is a skill of resilience. Acting quickly and having patience aren’t mutually exclusive and, in fact, often exist in tandem.

Learning that patience is often required will help resilient people to be ready to act when the opportunity to act is required and wait when waiting is the better choice. Mental resilience understands that sometimes resilience means being in it for the long haul.

10. Being resilient includes celebrating milestones and incremental achievements

Resilience takes and gives energy. Celebrating but not dwelling on small achievement along the journey helps balance hunger with satisfaction. Resilient people remain hungry for their next challenge and success but enjoy and appreciate what they’ve achieved along the way.

Learn that you have the power to become mentally stronger and increase your resilience. Surround yourself with people and opportunities to observe, develop and exercise your resilience. Do one more thing each day then you think you can; forgive one more person; do one more rep during your workout; cook something new; enjoy one more moment; pat yourself on the back one more time.

Remember that resilience is built or destroyed brick at a time. Use these building blocks each day to fortify your own mental strength as you build resilience.

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