How to Put Away What No Longer Serves Your Business.
Resolutions, although most of us seem to make them every New Year, rarely work because they are usually founded on a context of resistance.
“What you resist persists,” is how the old adage goes. Carl Jung, the Swiss psychologist is most famous for using this line. Of course, Jung was referring to aspects of the self that, when denied, will have the tendency to linger in the personality.
In my experience, the adage has an actual physical effect in that if you are pushing up against something that is pushing up against you with equal force, the result is non-movement. Try pushing against the palm of a friend’s hand with your own and ask them to push against yours.
What you will experience is that neither of your hands moves.
As soon as one of you lets your hand go, the other’s moves freely.
Making a resoution
When we make a resolution to change something about ourselves, our habits or our lives in general, what we are often saying is that we do not accept that thing which we want to change.
By not accepting it, we resist it. We make ourselves wrong for being in that situation, for making that mistake or for having that habit, etc. Change will be difficult at best because we are basically saying to ourselves that our imperfection is unacceptable and something must be wrong with us. Subconsciously we reason that taking the necessary actions to change our behaviors is futile.
This mental state keeps us suspended in the “trying” to change mode. Instead of doing, we convince ourselves that trying is enough.
In the beginning stages of a resolution we are excited and motivated, but then reality sets in, we remember how incompetent we believe we are and we go back to our old habits. Eventually we are back in the same place. Nothing has moved.
Change is very powerful
Change is very powerful when it is viewed from the standpoint of transformation rather than from resistance to the inescapable fact that we are not perfect.
Transformation begins with embracing all of who we are, including the mistakes we have made. It is about shifting the form of something from a place of it no longer working to a condition in which our life is contributed to by it.
If you want to ensure that your New Year resolutions have a long-lasting impact, and that your goals have a chance of being fulfilled, you must first embrace those relevant aspects of your life that you want to transform.
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