Taking responsibility and not passing the buck is the overriding factor to both personal and business success
Making things happen is no small feat. Sometimes to make something good happen it takes a quick minute or the right decision, other times it takes years of set up, problem solving and planning. Whether it’s finding the funds to remodel your business, revamping your work structure, or even scratching out a little me time, trying to finagle things for a positive outcome can be difficult. Many times it’s easier to stay the course then to put the energy into going in a different direction. Easy might work for the moment but in the long run, it’s just an excuse for avoidance, and excuses can lead to stagnation on all levels from work, to family, to personal well being. Excuses also take the onus off of the individual and pass the buck to someone or something else.
I admire people who own their own businesses because they made it happen. I admire people who had a goal from when they were young, an idea that made it, a career path or company they always wanted to work for… and got there. I admire these people because they live their life with no excuses. They are walking testaments that nothing gets in their way.
It seems no matter where we turn, we’re being told our problems are the fault of someone else. Frightening. Flashback to the eighties; this is where I first noticed the blame game. Back then if a girl was too thin, it was Kate Moss’s fault. Today, if a girl is too heavy…. it’s Kate Moss’s fault or any super model on the planet. Times sure have changed, sort of. It’s a frightening aspect when you take the responsibility off of an individual and put it on someone else.
I think women who eat healthy and work out consistently, are a step in the right direction. Do I do all those things? No. I guess that’s why I’m not a size two. That’s okay with me. I do eat well, I’m vegan and I stay away from processed or fast food. However, I definitely don’t exercise as I should, but that’s my fault. Not the fault of some one in the public eye. If I eat that doughnut, there’s no supermodel standing next to me stuffing it in my mouth. If I wake up and don’t do twenty sit ups and twenty push ups in my bedroom, that’s my fault. I can do those things but I don’t because I have excuses.
The new thing is average Barbie or some sort of doll that looks like an “average” girl. Well, I didn’t play much with Barbies when I was a child, but I did like my Charlie’s Angels dolls. Never obsessed over looking like them, just thought they were cool because in the show the women kicked butt. I never had a problem with Barbie until I went to college and I was taught that she was the devil. Still didn’t get it because Barbie was a doll who was pretty and fun to dress up. The doll never made me feel uncomfortable.
Now there is the call to arms for a doll that looks like an “average” girl. I read about the measurements they used for the average girl and realized I didn’t have those measurements when I was a teenager. That made me feel uncomfortable. Does that mean I’m different in a negative way because I didn’t fit the norm? Is that what this doll will be shouting to the world, “You are not normal or average!” Now that sounds like something that might cause a girl to compare herself to a doll.
For me, Barbie was just a doll. Never thought about looking like her because: 1. She was blonde and I was brunette. 2. She seemed taller than me. 3. She was a DOLL for entertainment purposes not a call to erase who I was and become a doll. Same with my Charlie’s Angels dolls. My favorite Charlie’s Angels doll was Jaclyn Smith because she was very pretty. That’s it.